Choosing the Right Moment
I decided to take my escape during the week to avoid the temptation of turning this time for myself into a family trip. I needed time for me, not a family holiday. I also resisted the urge to call friends who live near the hotel, avoiding social commitments. I just needed space and free time.
The Journey
On the way to the hotel, I started choosing my favourite songs and repeated one of them at least 10 times, singing along loudly.
Arrival at the Hotel
When I arrived at the hotel, I explored the location and available activities. I spent some time playing with room gadgets, pressing all the buttons, dimmers, minibar, TV, and internet. I connected my Bluetooth and, for the 11th time, listened to my favourite song. I indulged myself by not unpacking my suitcase and enjoyed the bathtub while checking the hotel facilities and the restaurant menu on my phone.
No Rush
I went down to explore more of the hotel, and before I knew it, lunchtime had passed. I wasn't hungry, so I skipped the meal and instead I went and checked out the gym, sauna, and spa. Afterwards, I spent some time looking out the window and meditating. I watched the sunset and ordered dinner to my room. I dined while appreciating the view of the illuminated buildings and made a video call with my boys. They were fine. I read a book until I fell asleep.
A Tranquil Routine
The next day, I woke up at 5am and went to the gym, which was crowded. I returned, ordered breakfast, and followed my routine of sauna and spa. I had a drink by the pool, whilst checking my social media without looking at the clock and without guilt. I called a friend and we spent hours catching up. I ordered lunch outside the usual lunch times, called the children, and cried after hanging up, #mum-guilt! I returned to the spa, danced to my favourite song while watching the sunset. Feeling a little peckish, I ordered a cheese platter and flicked through the TV channels.
Reconnection
These two nights were an incredible opportunity to reconnect with myself. Escaping the routine and forgetting about the worry of schedules was refreshing. I went to the market without socialising and didn't do any sightseeing because I simply didn't want to. I just enjoyed having the space to myself and took a hot bath while listening to my favourite song for the 12th time. At that moment, I knew I was ready to return home to my routine of kids, work, partner.
Reflection
As mothers, we often give up simple things like listening to our favourite music, eating what we want, doing what we enjoy without worrying about the time, staying quiet, and meditating. Our children come first and need that routine but sometimes we have to break away from the routine so we can reconnect with ourselves. Stopping was my best strategy. Everyone was fine, the house functioned without me, and everyone understood and supported me. I came back stronger and refreshed. I came back a better Mum.
I made a commitment to myself not to let the exhaustion build up, to do things I enjoy every week, and to take this time for myself every now and again.
Give it a try if you can. 😊 ACN
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